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Hey, welcome to the club! BUT I have a solution!
How many of us have this problem? A lot. My parents included. I have a very large, very close family that thinks everyone is out to get me & my sisters. But here's the solution:::Bring your date home first! Let him meet your parents & more importantly your siblings! That is how my sister's bf became a family favorite.
If your date acts like a jerk, or doesn't like hanging out w/your family, he's probably not worth it. If he cares about you he will understand how important this is! Tell him how much this matters to you & your family. Have him over & just watch some TV with your family. As long as you're not making out or hanging all over each other this will create a relaxed environment that will make him more likable as long as he relaxes and has fun. Then next time maybe have him play a sport with you & your family. After a few times of having him over, your family should have gained both his & your trust enough to let you to go out by yourselves.
--Posted by rachizpuresunshine
04:49PM EST 08/28/06
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Your parents have a good reason to be over protective when it comes to you. That's good news! It means that they care. If you're old enough to date then talk to them and tell them you think you deserve a little more freedom. You could start slow and work your way up.
They're just trying to do the best they can for you, so help them to trust you a little more. As you get older, they'll back off a little, but you could always give them a reason to feel better about it. And if your boyfriend can't accept them, then he can't accept you either. They are a big part of you and you need to let him know off the top that he gets all or nothing.
Just relax, think about it, take action and see what happens with your relationships--with your parents and your BF. Good luck!
--Posted by dcandy_2009
08:55PM EST 08/26/06
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I've gone through the same thing. First off, I explained to my mom that she has to let go a little and trust that she raised me with morals and good judgement.
Second, we came to an agreement that she would meet all the guys I date, at least after a reasonable amount of time.
And now, I've met an amazing guy, he met my mom and all that, and she likes him too...but my mom still gets nervous and protective sometimes, so I explained to my boyfriend about the situation (I have an older brother who passed away a few years ago... so I'm all my mom has left) and now he totally understands, and usually just shrugs it off when my mother makes me call her every time we're out, or when she randomly comes in the room to check on us. (Which she also does less frequently now that she knows him and knows I'm responsible enough to know what I should and shouldn't do.) Anyway, I hope that helps.
--Posted by dreamer72
10:12PM EST 08/25/06
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I'm afraid this is a case of "accept them how they are." Your parents will always be like that because they love you. Still, don't stop dating and having fun. Just explain to your date that your parents can be a little crazy, but they're good people.
Don't be afraid to let him meet them. After all, if you're really serious about the guy, he's going to have to find out about them sooner or later.
--Posted by whatever_it_is
08:44PM EST 08/25/06
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Hmmm...
Say to them, "I am hurt by the fact that you and mom are not letting me date, I would like to fix this by having a reasonable compromise. Maybe we can work somthing out. I want to have a bf, but I would like you to approve too, so if you let me, I promise to show them to you."
If you say somthing adult and responsible without angering them or whining, they will take you seriously as an adult. Plus, try to do more things around the house to prove your respnsibility. Good luck!
--Posted by darkfaeriechick2684
02:49PM EST 08/25/06
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I know exactly how you feel. My parents are very over-protective when it comes to dating (and most other things as well). I'm not even allowed to date until I'm 16 (which, fortunately for me, is this September).
Try talking to them about it. Show them you're responsible by taking responsibility for other aspects of your life. It would also help to have them meet the prospective date. Although it makes you nervous to have him meet them, it'll probably make them feel more comfortable with him in the long run. I hope this helps, and good luck!
--Posted by solovyay
12:36PM EST 08/25/06
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Listen, your parents have ever reason to be protective over you; you're their little girl! They need to give you space though. Don't be afraid. If you meet the right guy, he will accept your family and still love you. Don't be afraid to meet new guys and date. Your parents should just get used to it because that's what girls do.
--Posted by sophisticatedtwig
10:14AM EST 08/25/06
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Sit them down and talk it over with your parents. Say, "I know you're just watching over me, but I just need a little room in my dating life." Or talk it over with your boyfriends.
--Posted by movie_gurl
09:39AM EST 08/25/06
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