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Don't have to do it. Do other things.
If you don't want to have sex, then you don't have to. It is your body. If he is a good boyfriend, he will understand. Besides, there are other things you can do with each other.
--Posted by sweetsugarhoneestar5
09:47PM EST 08/09/06
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Don't be afraid to tell him. Don't make a mistake that you cannot take back just because you're worried he'll leave you. If he's a great person then he'll wait until you are ready. If not, let him go. You're too great to give up something so precious when you don't want to.
--Posted by illestlove
12:57AM EST 08/09/06
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Don't have sex with him, honestly. If he says anything, tell him you're not ready.
You can't be afraid of how he'll react. You're dating, right? He supposedly loves you and cares about you, right? If he truly loves you, he'll respect your opinion. If you say you're not ready and he tells you it's over, you know that he was not the one for you and that he didn't care for you as much as you thought. Either way, you need to tell him. So don't be afriad to tell him. If he cares about you, he'll understand, and if he doesn't, you'll find out that important bit of info. You don't want to stay with someone who only wants to be with you for sex...
If you just go along with it and have sex when you're not ready, you'll probably end up regretting it.
--Posted by oresama
03:38PM EST 08/08/06
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You need to wait until you are completely and totally ready. Do not go by his raging testosterone! If you have sex before you're ready it could really hurt you, in an emotional way. You could have a negative view of sex after that, and you don't want that to happen. You definitely need to talk to him so that you both come to an understanding.
--Posted by chrissie_wissie06
12:49AM EST 08/08/06
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Tell Him Straight
Tell him straight that you're not ready. If your boyfriend is understanding, then he'll totally get it. If he doesn't and he's being pushy, just back away from whatever he does. Don't give him what he wants, you be the one with the control. He'll get the message eventually.
--Posted by babimandi
06:17PM EST 08/07/06
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He should respect your decision.
You should sit down with him and tell him how your feel. It he truly loves you and wants to be with you, then he will respect your decision 100%. If he gives you a hard time, then he obviously doesn't care roo much about you. He should understand completely. You shouldn't be afraid to tell him that you don't want to have sex. Be honest with him. Honesty is very important in a relationship, especially a serious one.
--Posted by princessnerdy
01:54PM EST 08/06/06
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Do what you think/feel is right!!!
Girl, I've been there and I've done that. I know what you're thinking and feeling, but the truth of the matter is that if he loves you he'll wait until you're ready to have sex. Who knows how long he'll be waiting, but that won't matter to him if he really does love you.
--Posted by nicks_baby_gurl2009
11:15PM EST 08/05/06
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If he really LOVES you, he'll wait. Even though you don't want to tell him, I think you know that you have to. You can't be afraid, and the fact that you are afraid pretty much proves that if you can't talk to your boyfriend about sex, then you shouldn't have sex. Remember...no one can make you DO anything!
--Posted by girlygirl20009
04:35PM EST 08/05/06
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Confront your fears
Like it or not, the only way your boyfriend is going to get the hint that you're not ready is by telling him straight out. If he is a good guy, then there really shouldn't be anything to be scared of, and he will respect your wishes.
--Posted by cutiediva101
10:34AM EST 08/05/06
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Don't do it.
Someone shouldn't pressure you to "do it". If you're still a virgin, give your virginity to someone special. Wait until you're married. Plus, your boyfriend might have AIDS and other diseases.
--Posted by kengekat
08:10PM EST 08/04/06
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