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I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. In the beginning of the relationship we would go out on dates every now and then. Now he only seems to wanna go out when it's a group outting--like with his sisters and their boyfriends, or with his homeboys and their girlfriends. I always ask him to go out with just me (just us together) but he always gives me an excuse. What should I do? It's breaking my heart that he never wants to go out on dates with me anymore...

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    Well, I think that you should confront him about it. Tell him how you feel. And if he ends up being a jerk about it, then you can do way better. I know it's hard cause 2 years is a really long time. But I promise you that there is someone else out there who will appreciate time with you (and only you).
    --Posted by tearthesails
    09:44PM EST 01/03/06


    
    Talk to Him
    When you are with your boyfriend, whether his friends are there or not, find a time when you both are free. You can even make sure that his friends know about it, this way there's no backing out. If that doesn't work tell him that it's really hurting your feelings that the two of you are not going on dates anymore. But you need to understand that he's a person too, maybe he's just going through a stage and it's more comfortable if there are other people, most likely his friends. Be there with him!
    --Posted by memarshy
    08:27PM EST 01/03/06


    
    Troubled Fish
    First off, you need to quit hiding you're feelings about this situation and let him know what's going on. You've been with him for two years so he should be able to understand. If he's having trouble with it, maybe you should give him some space and let him figure out what he wants to do. He might not be as interested or maybe he's afraid of getting a bit more serious with you, because y'all have been together for 2 years! Ease up around him and don't cling onto him--show him that you have a life. Try to hang out with other people as well. If it doesn't work out between you two, there are many other fish in the sea and I'm sure you'll catch one soon enough!
    --Posted by cherryberyyyy
    07:40PM EST 01/03/06


    
    I know just how you feel
    Try talking to him about it. It may be that he's going through a phase right now where he's been with you for so long that he wants to try new things--like hanging out with large groups of people. My boyfriend went through the same thing, but if you sit down and tell him how you feel you should be able to work things out. Good luck!
    --Posted by heyxtherexskipy
    12:24PM EST 12/31/05


    
    
    If your boyfriend seems to be distancing himself from you, it's time to confront him about it. If he loves you, then nothing should stand between you. Is he shy? If y'all have been together for two years, then that is unlikely. You need to talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. If he loves you, he'll listen. If he doesn't, he's not worthy of you.
    --Posted by amnesia_medley
    11:21AM EST 12/31/05



    
    
    You should try talking to him and making a serious point that you'd like to go out with him, just him, every so often. Group stuff is nice, but you two do need some alone time. A date doesn't have to be going to the mall or dinner--you can have dinner at your place or just watch a movie together.

Try to ease him back into being with just you. He could also want you to get to know and spend more time with his friends and family because he likes you just that much. But overall you two need to talk seriously and just have some days where it's just you two. I make my boyfriend do that. Have days and times when he puts up his "toys" and is with me.
    --Posted by hislilarmybrat
    04:44AM EST 12/31/05


    
    It's Ok
    Don't let your heart break over that. He might just be shy to be around you...that is not a thing to stress over. Sometimes boys will feel one way but act another. He might feel like he wants to be alone, but he might also be shy when he is alone with a girl. He might think that you will be all like, "Oh, he is to shy I don't wanna date him any more," and the only way to avoid that is by being around a lot of people.
    --Posted by mertdaturtle
    08:58PM EST 12/30/05

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