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i'm falling for my best friend

my friend dates boys i like

my best friend is bisexual

i'm christian but my friend has no idea who god is

my friend has been drinking and doing lots of drugs

i just moved and i have no life

my friend is homophobic.

i told my friend she's fat

my friends think my boyfriend is ugly

how can i show him that he's being racist?

i am a perpetual liar...

my mom uses me to get closer to my sister...

my friend is a freeloader...

she's conceited and it's driving me nuts...

her singing voice sucks...

my two best friends don't get along

how do i stand up to a "mean girl"?

My friend is the biggest flirt.

my friend is the biggest flirt.

i saw my friend's bf cheating on her...

i don't want to share clothes...

my friend uses her ADD as an excuse

my friend's stealing my stuff

me and my best friend have been drifting apart...

My friend is competing with me

my best friend has a new best friend

my friends tease me for being skinny

my friend thinks i'm the girl of his dreams

both sides want me to choose between them

my two closest friends just started going out with each other

all my friend talks about is her new guy

my friend's mom keeps interfering in our business

my friend makes rude comments about my weight

my friend's a perfectionist

my friends are playing tug-of-war with me!

i want people to stop making fun of me...

she's saying things behind my back...

cheap and thoughtful bday present ideas?

i feel like i'm losing my best friend...

my friend's step-dad just died...

i think she's interested in me...

my best friend's mom hates me.

my friend is very homophobic.

my best friend likes my ex-boyfriend.

my best friend ignores me when she has a boyfriend.

i called my friend 'nasty' for not using a condom.

my best friend is in love with a complete loser.

what makes a good best friend?

my best friend is slowly changing.

my friend is constantly putting me down.

i get upset when i see my crush and my best friend together.

my best friend's mom thinks i'm a TOTAL druggie!

my best friend chose her boyfriend over me.

none of my friends take me seriously.

my best friend slept with my other best friend's boyfriend.

I'm noticing annoying things about my best friend that never used to be annoying before.

i don't think i'll have any friends when i go back to school

i don't trust my best friend's boyfriend.

i told my friend i'm bisexual; now she's acting different around me.

i received an email from an old friend who hasn't spoken to me in years.

i'm starting to like my friend but he's gay. what should i do?

i like this guy, but now my best friend feels like a third wheel.

my friend is extremely clingy. how do i get her to leave me alone?

my best friend went off to college and i feel like she doesn't care about our friendship anymore.

i'm afraid to tell my friends i'm bisexual. what should i do?

my best friend smokes weed every day. i'm worried, but she won't listen.

my best friend wants to read my diary. how do i keep my private writing private?


My two closest friends just started going out with each other. They're a guy and a girl. I don't want to be the third wheel, but I feel like I'm going to lose them completely if I just drop communication with them. How do I deal with it? I'm happy for them and I don't want to intrude because of my feelings.

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    Just deal!
    If they are good friends they will invite you to do activities with them too. If they don't let you in on things and you feel like the third wheel try finding newer friends that don't make you feel like the third wheel.
    --Posted by roxrainbowsox
    06:41PM EST 09/28/05


    
    
    I think that bomshell08 is right about hanging out with other friends when they are out. I would tell them my feelings as well. They should understand. Maybe they've been there too. Don't be afraid to tell them. If they don't understand then maybe they are not good friends.
    --Posted by tinker_b
    12:30PM EST 09/28/05


    
    Not a biggy
    It's not a big thing. It happens to heaps of people. You aren't going to lose your friendship over this so don't worry. That happend to me too but it was fine and you just need to live with it. My advice is let them do their own thing and maybe go on double dates or something to make it fun and interesting. Don't panic. You're not going to lose your mates over this one.
    --Posted by gawjus_girl
    02:17AM EST 09/28/05


    
    You will all still be friends
    IF they are really good friends the will know not to make you uncomfortable. Hopefully they will spend time together but they will also have some together time with YOU. Make sure you give them space also! Spend time with other friends when they have a date or something. This could be an excellent time to venture on your own and become better friends with others. Remember, just because they are dating doesn't mean it has to bring you down.
    --Posted by bombshell08
    07:43PM EST 09/26/05


    
    It's nothing big.
    You're not going to lose communication with them. There will be times when they will want to be alone, but they're your friends and they won't drop you. (I have been in a situation like that, but I am the best friend going out with the guy best friend.) It can work out for you. If you like a guy and one of them is friends with him, you can double date. (It's what we do.) Tell them how you feel and they won't leave you out if you all are hanging out.
    --Posted by kfgrl
    09:03PM EST 09/25/05



    
    Think about it
    My friend once thought that she was going to be a third wheel when I dated this guy who we were both good friends with. But her fear was totally irationnal. Nothing changed between us, I still spent more time with her than I did with my bf! My point is that you should wait and see if what you think is happening is actually happening. Besides, relationships come and go but you and your friend are always gonna be together!
    --Posted by bikinnigurl
    10:49PM EST 09/23/05


    
    Don't have to be...
    Tell your friends how you feel they will understand. They have probeley been there too.
    --Posted by kfarmgirl14
    10:47AM EST 09/23/05


    
    It can be kinda fun...
    When two of my good friends started going out, I felt exactly like you. But evenutally, I realized how great it can be for EVERYBODY. Say one day you don't want to hang out, your best girl friend is an automatic fill in for you! They WILL be focused on each other a lot, but if you support them throughout the way, there will be no extra wheels.
    --Posted by grelop
    07:06AM EST 09/23/05

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