My parents have been going through a really rough time for the past year. I know that all of their fights concern money, and after every fight one or the other goes away for a few days. I'm so scared that they're going to get a divorce. I am not sure if I could handle that. I love both of my parents to death, and I don't want to leave either one of them. I can't talk to my 'rents 'cause that would be so awkward and my friends wouldn't understand. What should I do?
I'm going through the same thing
I know what it's like hun. My parents constantly fight over money too and it gets really frustrating that I just yell at them to stop. Sometimes I feel like I'm the parent and they're the children because they can act so immature. Unfortunately, there's not too much you can do except let them know that their fighting bothers you. --Posted by michaelsgrrl 12:37AM EST 03/17/05
Talk
Hey I know how scary it is to see your parents fight. Mine do all the time. The difference between us, though, is that you're close to your parents. So I think you should talk to them and let them know that what they're doing is hurting you. You probably don't want to but you'll have to sooner or later. Sit down and have a mature conversation with each of them let them know that money isn't everything and they should be more concerned about you. "Sometimes money costs too much". --Posted by latina_gurl6 03:43PM EST 03/16/05
See I went through the same situation once and I was damn terrified that my mom and dad would seperate but fortunately they didn't! I think the best way to handle this is to stay positive and indulge yourself in activities that are fun and just deprive yourself of all this tension. You should have a look at the positive side also: I guess maybe your parents will have a better life without each other. So you should stop thinking about all this and concentrate on other things. You should let your friends know. They will understand and try to help you out. :) --Posted by hottie_hotchick 01:39AM EST 03/14/05
Talk about it
Keeping an open communication is very important in a family. You said it would be awkward to talk to your parents but why should you feel awkward? They are your parents and above anyone else, they should be the ones knowing what's inside your head. I think you'll understand them more and they'll understand you more if you open up. What's more is that they might not consider getting divorced if you tell them how you feel. If, on the other hand, they still decide to get divorced after you talk to them, then there must be some really tough reason behind that decision that you must understand. --Posted by chadgurl 01:27AM EST 03/14/05
I say talk to your parents and tell them how you feel. Tell them how much it scares you when they fight, and tell them that you love them very much and you don't want anything to happen to your family. --Posted by pierre_lover222 09:49PM EST 03/13/05
Talk to someone
You need to talk someone. Your parents would be the best, but if you can't, then try talking to your school counselor until you feel comfortable talking to your parents. If you could, you may want to convince your parents into marriage counseling. Unfortunately, they may not stop fighting. My parents divorced when I was like 1 year old. It sucks and you miss whoever you do not live with, but you still see them and talk to them. Hopefully they don't, but if they do split up, you may want to stick with mom if you are a young teen going through adolesence. You may not convince them to go to counseling, but you need to talk to them to help you. If they are unware, it may never stop. They might decide to stop arguing so much because of you. Once you are ready, no matter what it takes, even if it's writing a note, they need to know. --Posted by Ushersgurl4eva 06:43PM EST 03/12/05
I know what you're going through
That's how my parents used to be. A year or 2 ago we were having a rough time with money and they would fight constantly everywhere, not caring if I was there or not. I thought they were going to get a divorce too because it was non-stop. What I did was whenever they would fight around me I would either walk away and blast my music. Or, if I couldn't get out-- like if I was in the car-- I would yell at them to stop fighting about it until I could get away from them. You really need to tell them that this fighting is bothering you or they'll never know...That's what I did and it's alot better now. --Posted by sdrawkcabyag 10:58AM EST 03/12/05
Well..
Well, I know you said that it's 'awkward' But I think you should take the chance and talk to your parents. I think that's the only way. If you don't, no one will, and then it will get worse. So talk to them tell them what you feel. --Posted by aleesandra49 04:09PM EST 03/11/05
similar situation
Before my mom died my parents had a similar situation going on, except they didnt fight about money. I was terrified that they would divorce but they stuck together. You have to accept whatever your parents' choice is. I know I was terrified mine would get divorced but you have to realize that your mother or father might be miserable living the way they do. You don't know if they will get a divorce but if they do, understand that even if your parents love each other they have to look out for their ownh happiness as well. Living with one parent can be tough, I know, but it's something you learn to deal with and if they do get divorced just look on the bright side that they will not fight anymore and maybe you can be happier in a way. I hope everything works out though. :) --Posted by riot_girl_000 10:40AM EST 03/11/05
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