My bf tells me I don't tell him anything, that when we have an argument I don't express to him how I feel. I just don't answer him when he asks me what's wrong. I told him I had trouble expressing myself to people and that I was working on it but I don't know where to start. How can I start expressing how I feel to him more freely?
Patience
My ex boyfriend did not know how to express his feelings at all. We've known each other for like 3 years and he's just now telling me how he feels, he did back then but now more. Anyways.....I know that it can be frustrating for your boyfriend, but at the same time he has to understand that some people are more shy than others and that you're one of them. Tell him that if he gives you time, you'll eventually come around. --Posted by star_1519 11:14PM EST 12/05/04
Talk
Sit him down and tell him again that you can't express yourself freely yet. And that if he really feels for you he should just hold on and let you work though your problems. Then you guys can talk. --Posted by christy4lyfe 09:14PM EST 12/05/04
Talk to HIm
If I were you I would make it clear and tell him that you do not want to talk about absolutely everything! Some people just need space and do not want to talk about their feelings. Tell him not to take this behavior personally and to just accept it. If he does not listen than that is his loss! --Posted by mandy3261 11:06AM EST 12/05/04
TAKE YOUR TIME
Well, to tell you the truth I'm kinda in the process of being able to tell my boyfriend what i think/feel. A while back he would ask me questions and put me on the spot and I let him know over and over that I couldn't express my feelings, not because I was scared and not because I didn't know what to say, it was because it was just me-- that's the person that I am ...
As time progressed he got used to it and told me that he really wants me to be able to tell him any thing but if it takes time it's okay.
I started writing him notes and poems and told him to check my voice messages to hear messages that I left him about how I feel...then it just came one day, out of nowhere I said "Kenny, like we have discussed before it's hard for me to express myself and let you know how I feel but I want you to know ......" etc etc etc. I did it. I was finally able to let him know how I feel.. once you do it once you can do it again , and then you will have no problem.
Just let him know that you're just being you and eventually you will come around ....GOOD LUCK GIRL, and tell me how it went.. --Posted by Kennyswife 10:47PM EST 12/04/04
Why don't you start by practicing with your friends- when you guys hang out, you can make small comments on what you think like: nice sweater. Can we get plain pizza instead of pepperoni? From their go to like: I feel like dancing tonight, I find that kid annoying, stuff like that, and then it should come more naturally. --Posted by schoolhousesoda 07:12PM EST 12/04/04
Do some thinking
You should do some thinking on this one. When I was going out with my bf I totally could not express my feelings (some girls are just that way). Then, with another bf I realized it was stupid not to express your emotions and feelings to someone you like/love. So I told him the way I felt and got everything clear and easy. And he took it, lets just say, pretty well. So do some thinking and when you feel like you're ready go tell him how you feel! --Posted by niceasschick27 03:05PM EST 12/04/04
Talk to him
I think you should just tell him you have a hard time talking about things with others. This is a huge step for you and this is a step toward talking to him because you are expressing yourself right now. Just let him know you love him. Tell him you know that he will always be there for you. --Posted by iluvlilfizz 02:29PM EST 12/04/04
Write a letter...
Try writing a letter about how you feel and then read him the letter face to face. This way you can reread the letter you've written and if there is something you've left out, you can always write it in. Or if there is something you think doesn't fit you can erase it. Hope that helps!! --Posted by xcherry_rebelx 11:56PM EST 12/03/04
Talk to him about this topic. Tell him how you feel. He might have some suggestions, after all...he is the one complaining to you. You should really just tell him about it, he will understand. Just let him help you...that's what he's there for! --Posted by lilsteph32_33 12:16AM EST 11/26/04
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