My dad doesn't like any of my friends. Every time they call I can't talk to them and stuff, and he told me if they called again I would be grounded...What can I do?
I think your father has a problem with the fact that you are growing up and he doesn't want to let you go, but sooner or later he has to. --Posted by kris2525 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
Perhaps your Dad sees things in them that you don't see. And what he sees is a bad thing. Or it just could be that he's being unreasonable. In any case, you should respect his wishes. After all, you're living under his roof...maybe you'll just have to make do with seeing your friends at school. --Posted by makeawish1111 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
Don't give up quite yet! First I'd start out with telling your Dad about all the good things your buds have done for you. Go slow with this, though, because it sounds like he's trying to make up his mind about it. Whenever you get an opportunity then bring up something good about your friends like, "She stood up for me when so and so did such and such," and you'll eventually gain his trust. --Posted by xohannahox 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
I'd suggest you arrange a fun but somewhat corny activity that your Dad can take part in, along with a few of your friends. This way he can get to know them a little better, and make a better judgment of what they're like. If he doesn't go along with the outing, make an argument that flatters him too: "I know you're a really great judge of character, so I want you to stay involved in my life and get to know my friends. I just know you'll like Joe, he's got a great sense of humor like yours." --Posted by Dooner21 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
How well does your Dad know your friends? Chances are, not too well, and so he judges them by their age, style, background and other things that don't reflect what they're really like. -- 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
Assuming these friends are not into inappropriate things and they are good to have as friends, then you should talk to your father and ask him to have dinner with just ONE of your friends and see how it goes. If you try to make your friends a part of his life then he will be more likely to let them be a part of yours. In addition try not to get mad when he threatens to ground you, if you are calm, rational, and think out your words carefully he may realize that you are growing up and should have the right to decide who are your friends and who aren't and I think that you should tell him that in a respectful way. Good Luck!!! --Posted by daniellee0123 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
Ask your dad if you can talk to him about the situation without him "butting in." Explain to him that these are your friends and you can't help it, but to stop you from communicating with them wouldn't be fair or reasonable. He should give you a chance. --Posted by confusedbeauty 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
You could ask your dad what bothers him about them. Maybe you could find things about your friends that he might like. If he sees that they are good people, or good friends, he might be more open to them. --Posted by CareBearQT6 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
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