I have a sister and everyone thinks she's better than me, more responsible. And I'm older than she is. What should I do?
I am sort of like your sister. I bug the heck out of my brother because everyone thinks I am better, smarter, etc. But the thing is, I didn't even know anyone thought this until he told me. You should talk to your sister. Chances are she doesn't know what's going on. --Posted by blue_toothbrush 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
I'm coming from the other end of things, but just hear me out. I am the third of four children. I have two older sisters and a seven-year-old brother. As the middle child, I am often left out of my older sister's activities, and left home with my brother. In an effort to be accepted by my sisters, I try to overachieve and I am successful with it. I have won a bunch of contests for my writing, drawing and musical talent. Your little sis may be doing what I was doing. Maybe she just wants to be like her big sis, by being who she thinks you are. Is it possible that she views YOU as responsible, etc.? --Posted by Areida15 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
I have the same problem...my little sister seems to always get the attention of my parents and earn more respect. I personally think it's because our parents saw us grow up first and realized our mistakes and hold our siblings to that standard... Well my sister learned from my mistakes and has earned their respect ever since. My advice is to work hard, be respectful and just look out for your sister. --Posted by Abercr0mbiegrl 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
Question: Do you really want to be a responsible person? I personally think that the irresponsible people have more fun, 'cause they can do anything they want and nobody will really care. But if you do want to be more responsible than your sister is, you have to prove that you're more mature. Next time you get mad, don't freak out. Finish a project a few days beforehand. Help somebody else out with their project that they didn't finish. If that doesn't work, go skydiving and rejoice in being irresponsible. It's really not that bad. ;) --Posted by chikygurl19 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
Nobody can make you feel a certain way unless you let them; and it's obvious you are letting yourself feel upset by your sister's attention and respect. Remind yourself of the qualities you have that differ from those of your sister; everyone is loved and respected for different reasons. Maybe you just don't realize how other people see you. Or perhaps your sister is jealous of some of the attention she thinks you're getting. Next time someone compares you to your sister, say something like, "Yeah, she is a great person." They'll be shocked at your maturity and surprised by your kindness. --Posted by NotYourSenorita 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
You and your sister are equal, she is not better than you are and you're not better than she is. She may be better at some things, like responsibility, but maybe you have more patience, or better people skills than she does. Let whoever is making you feel inadequate know how they make you feel. He or she may not even know they are making you feel that way. --Posted by Foof1 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and explain to your parents how this is hurting your feelings. Besides that, don't try to compete with your sister in stuff just to prove something. People love you because you are special and do special, cool things. Do your own thing and don't worry too much about what others think. --Posted by malediction 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
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