Well some of my friends say that I'm an oreo. Black on the outside and white on the inside. Hey, just 'cause I talk proper and don't use slang doesn't mean anything. Because I live in the projects, they think I'm supposed to act like a "project chick." Maybe I want to be different and not act like one. What should I say to them?
Don't feel bad. My friends call me an oreo, too. Most people would say, "Don't worry about these people. They aren't really your friends." But that's not true. Your friends may not realize that this is hurting your feelings. You should talk to them. Maybe they feel comfortable enough with you to say that to you and they don't know that you're taking it personally. If they ignore you, keep trying and they'll eventually stop...and if they keep going with it, ask them what the deal (dillyo! Lol jk) is. And remember, if they are your real friends, the way you talk shouldn't be a factor in whether or not they like you. --Posted by missmick13 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
I'm so tired of this "you're acting white" or "you're acting black" stuff. There should be no such thing as "black" or "white." People like Martin Luther King Jr. tried really hard to make it so that black people could have equal rights. However, it's hard to be equal when people like the ones that call you "oreo" make a boundary for themselves and other blacks. They are setting themselves apart. Where I live, a lot of black kids think it's "white" to be smart and take honors classes. They aren't reaching their potential and therefore, might not get all the opportunities that the smart white kids and those, like yourself, who are smart and disregard this stereotype, will have in the future. You aren't acting "white," you are acting like you and they shouldn't stop you from being who you are. You should try and care only about what YOU think. --Posted by star0329 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
If this really bothers you, tell them that it does. They're your friends; they should know you well enough to accept that you've broken out of the project stereotype. You should learn to laugh at yourself, too, though. Everyone in the world can be placed in some stereotypical category. (I've been called a hick, a honky, and other things because I'm from Wisconsin). We've all been teased, but if you take it too seriously you just cause yourself a lot of unnecessary pain. Just take it in the context they present it. If it's mean-spirited, talk to them. If it's just playin', joke along. --Posted by EccentricDani 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
I get that all of the time! I'm black and like 10% Irish and people think just because I'm black I should listen to only black artists and I should only have black friends. I love Avril Lavigne, N*Sync, Good Charlotte, P.O.D., John Mayer, Britney Spears, BSB...then I also like Ja Rule, Ashanti, Eminem, Usher, Outkast, Juvenile, and a lot of other black artists. I don't speak "ghetto" and I don't like thugged-out guys, so people assume I want to be white and have blond hair and blue eyes, but I don't. My advice to you is just be yourself and if being yourself causes people to call you "oreo," then so be it. Be glad you're not conforming! --Posted by Lovely227 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
Well, girl, I had the same problem...But I set my friends straight. I told them that as my friends, they should accept me for who I am and not judge me or place me in a category to make themselves feel more secure about who they are. If they still insist on calling you such, cut them loose quickly because they are not worth your time and effort. They'll only bring you down in the end with their put-downs. --Posted by SamIamnot 10:31AM EST 03/30/04
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