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	i have no privacy i can't stand my step-mom everyone thinks my sister's better than me my family is really poor my dad doesn't like my friends my mom thinks i'm insane my christian cousin is gay... i hate seeing my mom kiss her boyfriend... my sister is anorexic... my sister and i like the same guys my parents fight about money my mom focuses on mistakes i've made in the past my mom's been snooping... how do i tell my mom i want to be a vegan? I lied about dating a younger boy, my mom would think I'm a loser my dad insults me my parents don't believe in dating i'm an atheist but my mom's a lutheran i have to share a room with an eight year old my mom read my diary i'm not allowed to date! i cannot get along with my mom... my mom and i are always yelling at each other. my parents are paranoid about me dating. my mom is a big emotional mess. i just found out my dad is really my step-dad. i want to be on birth control. how do i ask my mom? my mom won't let any of my friends drive me places. i want to find my real dad. my dad and grandma are always fighting. i can hear my mom having sex with her boyfriend at night. i have my license but my mom won't let me drive on my own. my parents are getting divorced and i'm freaking out. my mom hates my best friend. my dad looks at porn online, then blames my sister and me. my mom doesn't like my boyfriend because he is not christian. should i tell my mom that i'm not a virgin? my parents don't support my vegetarianism. what can i do? my mom doesn't believe that i'm bi. how can i convince her that this isn't a phase? i think my dad is cheating on my mom. should i say something? my brother is mad because i'm hooking up with his best friend. my mom tries to fit in with my friends and it's really annoying. i found a video of my brother smoking pot and i'm worried about him. my mom won't let me wear make up. my family keeps pressuring me to find a boyfriend. how can i get them to back off?

My brother and I are really close in age so we have a lot of the same friends. Last month, I started hooking up with one of his best friends since kindergarten and he got really mad when he found out.

We used to hang out all the time as a group but now my brother won't talk to either of us. Should I stop seeing this guy?

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    There is probably a good reason your brother is upset. You should talk to him about it.
    --Posted by ablnd.209
    04:31PM EST 08/12/08

    Well...
    He probably finds it wierd. I know I would if I were your brother. And if this is a serious relationship (which "hooking up" usually isn't), you need to sit your brother down and tell him what's going on and how you feel.
    --Posted by donniegummibear
    04:28PM EST 08/12/08

Blow Over
It is natural for your brother to be behaving this way because he might not have seen it coming. You should have confronted him about it as soon as you started hooking up with his friend. Mind you, either way he would still be mad.

Don't worry, it will all blow over soon. Just give it some time. He might just feel a bit uncomfortable with you seeing his friend.
--Posted by loveydovey999
04:03PM EST 08/12/08

Hmm...
Perhaps your brother feels that his friend might take advantage of you because he knows something you don't. Or perhaps he didn't exactly want his best friend with his little sister--because that can be a bit uncomfortable.

Try to talking to both your boyfriend and your brother. See it from both sides.
--Posted by snowlovesart
01:47PM EST 08/12/08

    In the GREEN
    He can't control what happens between you and his friends. Emotions are emotions, hormones are hormones.

If there's something going on that your brother knows about but you don't, he should let blood be thicker than water and tell you.
--Posted by subtle_anarchy
02:30AM EST 08/12/08

    In My Opinion...
    I think the reason your brother is mad is because he thinks that if his best friend gets really serious with you, he's going to lose a best friend. If you're hooking up with his best friend, you and your brother could both end up fighting over him. The way he sees it, he's supposed to be his friend--not your hook up.

Your brother is afraid you'll be taking away his best friend--bottom line.
--Posted by jennabenna15
12:07AM EST 08/12/08

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