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I don't think the way you present yourself is the problem; I wouldn't want a friend who couldn't take a joke, and its good that you have a positive outlook on life. You aren't in the wrong becasue you have a sense of humour! It's hard when it seems you aren't accepted by your friends, but if they can't see the difference between being serious and joking around, then they're acting stupid.
--Posted by x_soph_x
01:01PM EST 02/19/07
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I have a friend who is the same way. Sometimes she says something ditzy in class and everyone laughs, and because of that people have this image of her being dumb, and they don't take her seiously when she asks a question or doesn't understand something. I think if you told your friends that you want to be taken seriously, they would make an effort, but they probably think you like being "the funny one," and don't particularly want to be taken seriously.
--Posted by thatgirl22tango
12:30AM EST 02/18/07
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My Advice!
I don't think you should hang around people that make you feel stupid and make you want to not be yourself. Because in the long run you will find out you don't like the new you because you're lying to yourself.So just be yourself and if your friends can't except you then they aren't true friends anyway.
--Posted by krizzledizzle09
12:12PM EST 02/17/07
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The only way to solve a problem like that is to continue doing what you're doing. Say smart things and be serious sometimes and they will accept it as part of your personality. It's gonna take time though, so be patient.
--Posted by whatever_it_is
10:23PM EST 02/16/07
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Tell Them
When you're saying something "smart" or expressing yourself, say something like, "No. I'm really being serious." And if they still don't understand say, "Why don't you guys take me seriously?!" If they don't have a good enough answer for you, walk away. I know walking away isn't the best problem-solver, but sometimes there is nothing else to say.
--Posted by woah_its_nicolee
03:58PM EST 02/16/07
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I have the same problem, and I'm not especailly funny, either. i can be kind of ditzy. Most of my friends give off an awful vibe around me, and say all sorts of condesending remarks about me. There's not much you can do, except show them you're not dumb. Talk about a book, or discuss your plans for the future. Maybe your friends are the type you can talk to, or maybe they're not. Seperate yourself from the worst of them, or at least limit your time around them.
--Posted by zombina
01:12PM EST 02/16/07
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Tell them you are serious. When in a serious conversation, avoid saying anything funny; try to keep a serious attitude. Some people laugh when they're nervous. Think about if you feel nervous when you are laughing during a serious conversation.
--Posted by darkfaeriechick2684
12:19PM EST 02/16/07
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Who needs crappy/crabby people?
I think you should be around people who make you smile, not people who you have to put a smile on for. I mean, why would you want to change yourself for someone else?
--Posted by sniffytuna
06:17AM EST 02/16/07
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