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You're a good friend...but
I think that it's good that you're concerned over your friend having unprotected sex because that isn't good at all, but you should have expressed your concern in a different way instead of telling her it was nasty. Try to mend things over with her by telling her why you felt the way that you did when she told you about the condom and try not to accuse her of anything. People make mistakes they just need cool friends like you to help them understand the mistakes they might be making. Another thing sex is totally overrated and you wouldn't want your friend to do anything she will regret so you might wanna talk her out of having sex in the first place.
--Posted by ozomatligurl
06:15AM EST 09/21/06
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Condom or no condom
You definitely had her safety in mind, but used a bad choice of words. Let her chill out and then go to her, sit her down, and tell her calmly your reasons for why you called her "nasty" and that you only thought about her safety. Keep in mind: she is her own person, so she will either listen to you or not.
--Posted by fameisme
02:04AM EST 09/21/06
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You did the right thing
Well I don't think you did anything wrong, seeing as you called the concept nasty and didn't say that she was nasty. I think you should explain the difference--tell her that what you mean is that she is not nasty, but the fact that she might get a disease or get pregnant and that it was not directed towards her, but merely the idea of something bad happening. I truly feel that if she had gotten pregnant or gotten an S.T.D. and you hadn't warned her, she might have unconciously, or perhaps conciously, somewhat blamed you. So my advice is to just, in a calm way, explain why it is important and why having a condom is in her best interest, so that she knows where you're coming from (but make sure to do this when she is not very upset but when she is calm--otherwise she won't listen). Maybe also give her a pack of condoms so you wouldn't have to feel like you were offering each time, and she might be more likely to use them if she felt like you weren't breathing down her back.
--Posted by missmarple
11:21PM EST 09/20/06
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You're right.
You're definitely right on about the condom thing and maybe you should tell her the consequences of not having a condom/and if she's not on birth control. however, i think "nasty" was probably not the smartest thing to say especially if she's your best friend. But you have to let her know that it's definitely essential to have protection during sex.
--Posted by xfunkadelicx
04:31PM EST 09/20/06
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Try this
I can understand your concern for your friend by her choosing not to use a condom. However, I think your choice of words was a little unnecessary. Instead of calling her "nasty" which would offend anyone, you should have explained to her the consequences of not using a condom. Other than pregnancy, there's tons of STDS..some which are curable, and some that aren't. Try telling her you're just worried about her, and you don't want her to do anything she will regret later on. Hope I helped!!!
--Posted by kayla71
01:53PM EST 09/20/06
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You were right.
You were only looking out for your friend, at the end of the day it's her choice but you have an opinion of your own so why shouldn't you voice it?
Also, you better tell her to get used to being called nasty etc. because when it gets out that she's been sleeping with a guy without using protection (and it will get out), it won't be the worse thing that people will call her.
--Posted by lilouli
01:15PM EST 09/20/06
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Ehh
I think you should have tried to convince her to use one but nasty is overborad you could have told her that what she was doing was nasty.
Women are more likely to get S.T.D.s
so its kinda smart to use all the protection you can.
--Posted by duck_rock
11:09AM EST 09/20/06
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Overboard
I would say you went a little overboard, maybe you should have discussed how important it is to use a condom, just so she wouldn't do it again, because chances are if she's mad at you, she's gonna run out and do it again.
--Posted by cali_ny_gurl7591
03:07AM EST 09/20/06
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Hello
I think you shouldn't try to control her. You guys are individuals. Let her do her own thing...You need to lay off, seriously...She can do what she wants.
--Posted by ceyanna
11:33PM EST 09/19/06
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What were you thinking?
Not only did you hurt your friend's feelings but you also ended up looking like a total b*tch. No girl wants to be called nasty, not even you, I'm sure. So what gives you the right to call her that? Maybe you meant well at first but you completely blew it by the end. She deserves an apology.
--Posted by revolvingbullet
05:22PM EST 09/19/06
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