My friend's step-dad just died and he was the main father figure in her life because her biological father is in the military and she never gets to see him. Anyway, she and her sister (who are both my friends) are taking it real hard and won't eat or sleep! I don't know what to do or say because no matter what, I know I can't fix this. What should I do?
When my friend's adoptive dad died, I just told her that I would be there for her if she needed me to be. She could call whenever she needed to talk and come over whenever. He died her senior year, so I filled her in on all the gossip and the games, and brought work to her house (if she needed it). --Posted by hislilarmybrat 01:31AM EST 03/14/06
Don't push anything
If she wants to talk about it, let her talk. All you have to do is listen and if you're a good friend, you'll let her talk for as long as she needs. With some people it can be helpful for them to write it ALL down...everything. And you are right--no matter what you do you can't make it all better, no one can, but trying to make her feel a bit better will help. Just don't tell her you know how it feels, unless you actually have lost someone that close to you. --Posted by cutiecar 09:21PM EST 03/13/06
OK
You're being a good friend just by asking people for advice. My advice is listen to her and if she needs a shoulder to cry on be ready to get your shirt all wet. The most you can do for a hurting person is be there for them...they would love that way more than you saying, "I know how you feel... There was this one kid..." You know what I mean. So just be there for her =) --Posted by mertdaturtle 07:50PM EST 03/13/06
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