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i have no privacy

i can't stand my step-mom

everyone thinks my sister's better than me

my family is really poor

my dad doesn't like my friends

my mom thinks i'm insane

my christian cousin is gay...

i hate seeing my mom kiss her boyfriend...

my sister is anorexic...

my sister and i like the same guys

my parents fight about money

my mom focuses on mistakes i've made in the past

my mom's been snooping...

how do i tell my mom i want to be a vegan?

I lied about dating a younger boy, my mom would think I'm a loser

my dad insults me

my parents don't believe in dating

i'm an atheist but my mom's a lutheran

i have to share a room with an eight year old

my mom read my diary

i'm not allowed to date!

i cannot get along with my mom...

my mom and i are always yelling at each other.

my parents are paranoid about me dating.

my mom is a big emotional mess.

i just found out my dad is really my step-dad.

i want to be on birth control. how do i ask my mom?

my mom won't let any of my friends drive me places.

i want to find my real dad.

my dad and grandma are always fighting.

i can hear my mom having sex with her boyfriend at night.

i have my license but my mom won't let me drive on my own.

my parents are getting divorced and i'm freaking out.

my mom hates my best friend.

my dad looks at porn online, then blames my sister and me.

my mom doesn't like my boyfriend because he is not christian.

should i tell my mom that i'm not a virgin?

my parents don't support my vegetarianism. what can i do?

my mom doesn't believe that i'm bi. how can i convince her that this isn't a phase?

i think my dad is cheating on my mom. should i say something?

my brother is mad because i'm hooking up with his best friend.

my mom tries to fit in with my friends and it's really annoying.

i found a video of my brother smoking pot and i'm worried about him.

my mom won't let me wear make up.

my family keeps pressuring me to find a boyfriend. how can i get them to back off?


I'm an atheist, but my mom's a Lutheran and I don't think she'll like it if she finds this out about me. I'm afraid to tell her but I know that keeping this a secret is pretty bad. I also feel weird when I go to church. Should I spill or keep it a secret?

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    Wow! Tough situation!
    Well, I'm a really strong christian, so you might not want to take my advice. I believe that everyone has the right to choose their religion and it isn't my place to tell you what you can and can't believe. However, I think that there are two ways in which you can handle the situation. One, you can remain atheist, in which case I would tell my mom and she should respect the decision. Or two, I would listen to the messages in the sermons at church, and maybe find out more about exactly what Christianity promises you. You never know, you might want to change your mind? But it's your decision!
    --Posted by shordy
    07:56AM EST 08/11/05


    
    Same problem here
    I'm atheist too. My family (especially my dad's side) are very religious, and I haven't told anyone except my best friends. I'm already an outcast since I'm the only one to like rock music, and I'm afraid they'll think my religious beliefs are based on that. Really, I just got older and made my own desiscion. I'm not sure what to do, but for now I'm not saying anything. I'd wait 'til the time was right...whenever that may be.
    --Posted by jks808
    11:59PM EST 08/10/05


    
    Hey...
    Just tell her, there's nothing wrong with it. I don't believe in God either. If it's such a big deal to her, compromise. Tell her you'll go to church with her on Christmas or Easter, but that's it. Just so she knows that you still care for her beliefs, but you strongly care about yours. That's what I do with my grandma, only go on Christmas...
    --Posted by tinkey_momo
    06:45PM EST 08/10/05

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