My best friend has a new best friend and I feel VERY left out...I've talked to her about it but she seems to just blow it off. I'm friends with her new best friend too but I feel so alone. What should I do?
Made it through
The same thing happened to me several times and when I talked to my friend about it she kinda blew it off for a while too. Until that "new best friend" of hers wasn't as good as she thought she was. Then she came back to me asking my opinion and help and hung out with me again. She's done that several times and includes me with her new "best friends" now because I think deep down she knows that no matter what happens with other people she meets I will ALWAYS be there for her.
My advice would just to be to sit back and let your friend make new friends. You can have many friends, but be there for her when she needs you because she will realize what a truly good friend you are and that she'd be stupid to let you go! (My best friend and
I now have three more best friends and all five of us couldn't be closer. We all hang out together and NOTHING can come between us. See it really isn't bad making new friends :-)) Hope all turns out well! Good luck! --Posted by babydol6170 08:38PM EST 06/28/05
I totally understand!
Recently when I had to transfer high schools, my best friend got a new best friend and started changing. She started turning into a slut, so we are now no longer friends. I think you need to talk to your friend. I did and she cussed me out, so I knew the friendship was over. Chances are your friend has no idea that you feel left out and will feel horrible. Good Luck! --Posted by AngieRose73 01:48AM EST 06/28/05
Maybe it's not what you think
This year was my first year of high school and my friends from middle school were hardly in any classes! So naturally I made a few new friends and I enjoyed spending time with them. My other friends got jealous and told me they felt forgotten. The truth was, I wasn't trying to replace my friends at all! I had just made some new friends and there is nothing wrong with that. After they talked to me I was extra careful to spend tons of time with them and the whole thing just went away.
So what I'm saying is that maybe she's not trying to replace you. She's allowed to make new friends. You should talk to her and make sure she understands how you feel, but also listen to how she feels. You will probably find out that you're still her best bud. If she won't take your feelings seriously, then she's not really being fair to you and it might be time to move on. But, if you're best buds she should listen. --Posted by BikinniGurl 10:42PM EST 06/27/05
Walk in someone else's shoes
I know that it has got to be tough for you. I have been in your situation MANY times before., Actually I'm kinda experiencing that right now w/ one of my best friends. Try and think of any way you might have offended her. I mean, people react in different ways and she might've just been reacting to something you did. If you can't think of anything, then picture yourself in your best friend's shoes. Why would she be so into this new person, if she wasn't someone totally awesome? It may be hard for you to accept her now, and it may seem like you"re being left out, but that's only because you feel threatened by this new friend. So try and look past that bias and get to know this person better. Don't think of it as a negative thing. Think of it as a new addition to your friendship, where the three of you could have a blast together. --Posted by Dstyle1015 10:32PM EST 06/27/05
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