I have a fairly good friend and we are pretty close. The only problem is that whenever I'm with her, I constantly feel like she is judging me and wants to be better than me. She has been very competitive lately about her social life, bragging about all the boys she meets and all the parties she gets invited to. My senses are telling me to break off the friendship before I get hurt, but summer has just started so I won't have anything to do! What should I do?
To tell you the truth...
My best friend and I are always competing. She's always excelled to be better in sports than me and I've always had better grades than her. I would take the competitiveness as a compliment. I look up to my best friend and that's why I'm always trying to beat her when it comes to sports. And she looks up to me school-wise, always asking questions and having me help her so that she can beat me. It's improving both of us. But, I guess if it gets too bad with your friend, just tell her outright that you're tired of her trying to be better than you all the time. --Posted by trackrunna2992 10:39AM EST 06/16/05
Talk to her...
Maybe you should just sit down and talk to her. Don't jump to conclusions. Maybe this friend of yours is excited because she's getting attention that was never there before. And, since you're her best friend she's coming back and telling you all the exciting news. So just talk to her and maybe you'll find out what you need to know. (Email me back and let me know what happens.) --Posted by pretiegurl 11:07PM EST 06/15/05
You don't have to take it
You don't have to take her competitiveness. You decide what you can and cannot take and if you don't like it, tell her. I have a friend like that. I told her and she understood. --Posted by ebiebank 06:17PM EST 06/14/05
Don't assume--get the 411
Maybe you should talk to her first before you think about doing something as serious as breaking up the frienship. Or maybe she's just a little self-conscious. She may feel intimidated by you so she tries to compete. But, it is wrong to just assume something without getting the other person's side. Do that first, then make decisions. --Posted by qtshrty 04:11PM EST 06/14/05
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