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i have no privacy

i can't stand my step-mom

everyone thinks my sister's better than me

my family is really poor

my dad doesn't like my friends

my mom thinks i'm insane

my christian cousin is gay...

i hate seeing my mom kiss her boyfriend...

my sister is anorexic...

my sister and i like the same guys

my parents fight about money

my mom focuses on mistakes i've made in the past

my mom's been snooping...

how do i tell my mom i want to be a vegan?

I lied about dating a younger boy, my mom would think I'm a loser

my dad insults me

my parents don't believe in dating

i'm an atheist but my mom's a lutheran

i have to share a room with an eight year old

my mom read my diary

i'm not allowed to date!

i cannot get along with my mom...

my mom and i are always yelling at each other.

my parents are paranoid about me dating.

my mom is a big emotional mess.

i just found out my dad is really my step-dad.

i want to be on birth control. how do i ask my mom?

my mom won't let any of my friends drive me places.

i want to find my real dad.

my dad and grandma are always fighting.

i can hear my mom having sex with her boyfriend at night.

i have my license but my mom won't let me drive on my own.

my parents are getting divorced and i'm freaking out.

my mom hates my best friend.

my dad looks at porn online, then blames my sister and me.

my mom doesn't like my boyfriend because he is not christian.

should i tell my mom that i'm not a virgin?

my parents don't support my vegetarianism. what can i do?

my mom doesn't believe that i'm bi. how can i convince her that this isn't a phase?

i think my dad is cheating on my mom. should i say something?

my brother is mad because i'm hooking up with his best friend.

my mom tries to fit in with my friends and it's really annoying.

i found a video of my brother smoking pot and i'm worried about him.

my mom won't let me wear make up.

my family keeps pressuring me to find a boyfriend. how can i get them to back off?


My dad doesn't like any of my friends. Every time they call I can't talk to them and stuff, and he told me if they called again I would be grounded...What can I do?

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     I think your father has a problem with the fact that you are growing up and he doesn't want to let you go, but sooner or later he has to.
    --Posted by kris2525
    10:31AM EST 03/30/04


    
    
     Perhaps your Dad sees things in them that you don't see. And what he sees is a bad thing. Or it just could be that he's being unreasonable. In any case, you should respect his wishes. After all, you're living under his roof...maybe you'll just have to make do with seeing your friends at school.
    --Posted by makeawish1111
    10:31AM EST 03/30/04


    
    
     Don't give up quite yet! First I'd start out with telling your Dad about all the good things your buds have done for you. Go slow with this, though, because it sounds like he's trying to make up his mind about it. Whenever you get an opportunity then bring up something good about your friends like, "She stood up for me when so and so did such and such," and you'll eventually gain his trust.
    --Posted by xohannahox
    10:31AM EST 03/30/04


    
    
     I'd suggest you arrange a fun but somewhat corny activity that your Dad can take part in, along with a few of your friends. This way he can get to know them a little better, and make a better judgment of what they're like. If he doesn't go along with the outing, make an argument that flatters him too: "I know you're a really great judge of character, so I want you to stay involved in my life and get to know my friends. I just know you'll like Joe, he's got a great sense of humor like yours."
    --Posted by Dooner21
    10:31AM EST 03/30/04


    
    
     How well does your Dad know your friends? Chances are, not too well, and so he judges them by their age, style, background and other things that don't reflect what they're really like.
    --
    10:31AM EST 03/30/04



    
    
     Assuming these friends are not into inappropriate things and they are good to have as friends, then you should talk to your father and ask him to have dinner with just ONE of your friends and see how it goes. If you try to make your friends a part of his life then he will be more likely to let them be a part of yours. In addition try not to get mad when he threatens to ground you, if you are calm, rational, and think out your words carefully he may realize that you are growing up and should have the right to decide who are your friends and who aren't and I think that you should tell him that in a respectful way. Good Luck!!!
    --Posted by daniellee0123
    10:31AM EST 03/30/04


    
    
     Ask your dad if you can talk to him about the situation without him "butting in." Explain to him that these are your friends and you can't help it, but to stop you from communicating with them wouldn't be fair or reasonable. He should give you a chance.
    --Posted by confusedbeauty
    10:31AM EST 03/30/04


    
    
     You could ask your dad what bothers him about them. Maybe you could find things about your friends that he might like. If he sees that they are good people, or good friends, he might be more open to them.
    --Posted by CareBearQT6
    10:31AM EST 03/30/04

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