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my bf's black--he won't tell people at school about us

does my tomboy style drive him away?

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he asked another girl to prom.

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should i make a move on my crush?

how do I know if i'm in love?

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my boyfriend has a problem with overweight girls.

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he's been talking to his ex-girlfriend.

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my boyfriend cheated on me and i can't get over it.

i don't have feelings for my boyfriend. should i end the relationship?

i don't believe in premarital sex but the guys i like don't share the same beliefs. what should i do?

my boyfriend gets mad at me when i talk or hang out with my guy friends. what should i do?

my boyfriend doesn't do anything special for me. i just want to feel more love...

i love my boyfriend, but i don't know how to tell him. should i wait for him to say it first?

my boyfriend is going to his ex-girlfriend's birthday party. i'm afraid they'll make a drunken mistake.

the butterflies i used to get around my boyfriend have gone away. is this a bad sign?

how do i break up with my boyfriend without hurting him?

my boyfriend is moving way too slow. how can i speed things up?


I am white and dating a black guy. My parents are punishing me for it. They say that they don't trust me anymore. We have talked about trying to compromise, but nothing seems to work. I feel it's very socially acceptable to date outside of your race, but they obviously don't. What can I say or do to let them know that I'm not a bad person and that I like my boyfriend? Is there any way to get them to accept it for now?

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     They are probably feeling completely out of control, which can be really scary for parents. So you're just going to have to show them how well you're managing your life. For starters, keep everything out in the open. They might trust you some more if they meet your bf, looking all nice and tidy and on his best behavior. And most importantly: DON'T GIVE UP. Keep on doing what you know in your heart is right.
    --Posted by Kate
    10:31AM EST 03/30/04


    
    
     There really is nothing that you can do to make your parents understand or change their minds. Sometimes, even if you don't agree with what they say, your family is just looking out for you. I'm black and my mother would prefer if I dated black people. But really, my mother just wants me to be happy.
    --Posted by Yaswood
    10:31AM EST 03/30/04


    
    
     It seems like your parents need to chill out. You should help them out by telling them how you feel and how you want them to accept you for the choices you make. Once you start standing up for what you believe, they'll listen to you.
    --Posted by Skirtgirl18
    10:31AM EST 03/30/04


    
    
     I think you should tell your parents how you feel about him. If they still won't let you guys date, be mature and agree to their standards. If you let them see that you are responsible and can take care of yourself, they may re-think their decision. If not, only THEN is it time to be irrational and make noise. All people are equal. Your parents are wrong and are being unfair.
    --Posted by dbriley
    10:31AM EST 03/30/04


    
    
     My parents are an interracial couple and most people just accept it. Your parents need to understand that your feelings aren't theirs. When my mom told her family that she was marrying a black guy, they went ballistic! But one of her mom's friends calmed them down. Do you have a close family friend that might be able to help? Talk to them. It's probably a good thing that you're dating a black guy; it will teach them something. Hang in there!
    --Posted by ereed
    10:31AM EST 03/30/04

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