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How can you not
I think it's crucial to be friends before jumping into a relationship, otherwise you don't know what the other person is like or how well you get on with them. I don't see how you can be all over someone if you don't know what they're like
--Posted by laurenlol
I think it's important
.. to be friends and get to know each other before starting a relationship. Me and my bf and know that no matter what happens, we are best friends before anythign else and our relationship grows because of the comfort and trust we already had before dating.
"Love is friendship set on fire" - I think it's true.
--Posted by jellybean29
i think its awesome!!!
being friends first is always good, it gives you a chance to get to know the person before you get physical. i think you need to have respect and trust before you have a relationship with someone, it gives you a foundation to fall back on
--Posted by macdgee
You get to know the person better
I think it's a good idea. You get to know the person better before starting a relationship. Me and the guy I like are friends now. Apparently, I'm not ready to tell him how I feel yet.
--Posted by avrilfan11
Its a good idea!
You get to know the person better and see what they are like. In the end I think it will make you fall even more in love and make your relationship stronger.
--Posted by miss.independent
You'll Last ALOT longer....
If you start out as good friends. And you can see what their good qualities and what you have in common are and their bad qualities because honestly, everyone has a bad quality or 2...or 3. Me and my BF were friends since 4th grade but we didn't have a crush on each other until 10th grade. We're in 11th grade now and our relationship is stronger then I ever imagined. He's my bestest friend ever!!!! And I love him!
--Posted by sweetsmooches091
I really wish there was a on the fense option
Its great to get to know someone, you get close to them without pressures of dating. Then if you feel like moving past that you can. But what happens if you have a nasty break up? Or you lose intrest while he/she is still in love with you (or vise versa).
--Posted by duzziebat
Definitely dude!!
Why not? It's a great way to get to know a person before actually being involved with them and then getting to know them. It's like the whole "look before you leap" thing. That's what I do :).
--Posted by quiettiger18
I think it really helps to have a foundation under your relationship and it makes it easier to be friends afterwards if things don't work out. I always like relationships better if I'm friends with the person first.
--Posted by raver_twin
I think it really helps to have a foundation under your relationship and it makes it easier to be friends afterwards if things don't work out. I always like relationships better if I'm friends with the person first.
--Posted by raver_twin
Being friends before dating is great in my opinion. For example, my boyfriend and I, we were BEST FRIENDS for a while before we even dreamt of dating. I don't suggest dating if it involves a best friend, like mine. It doesn't always work out, and plus the relationship it more intact usually if it's a best and more devastating if it ends. If you just date some random person without being friends with them first, you have no idea what you could potentially be getting into.
--Posted by foreverxinxdespair
YESSSSS
Me and the Love of my life were best friends before we started dating and i think it makes our relationship stronger
--Posted by rwspcountrygal
i'm on the fence with this one... on one hand, a relationship is basically best friends with benefits... on the other hand, if you and your sweetie break up, it could ruin the friendship... i dated a friend of mine for a month, and now we don't talk... so i don't know about this one...
--Posted by obaby1126
I think that yes it might hurt in the end. But having a friendship will only make your relationship stronger, which to me is a positive thing.
--Posted by amourxoxo
It's a must.
I think you should definitely get to know a person before going out with them. It might end up ruining a friendship in the end, but having friendship makes a relationship stronger. Although I'm probably biased, my current (and so far only) boyfriend and I have been best friends for almost two years.
--Posted by psycho_hippie_witch
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no no no no no
Its the worst idea in the world. I dated my best firend once and now we dont talk to each other. It ruens a friendship and a relationship.
--Posted by xo-butterfly-xo
no no no no no
Its the worst idea in the world. I dated my best firend once and now we dont talk to each other. It ruens a friendship and a relationship.
--Posted by xo-butterfly-xo
Remember
As much as friendship is a vital element of a good relationship and as much as sexual attraction shouldn?t always be the most pressing issue when it comes to choosing a partner, being friends first can sometimes be awkward. When you're friends you tend to get into a loop of relaxed conversation and it can be hard to get flirty. Being mates first is ok but too close a mates could affect a relationship negatively and should be avoided. I'd be a bit worried about going out with someone I've confided secrets in. You wouldn?t want to date the lad you let know you?ve got something like a mole on your back or a huge birthmark on your bum etc? Besides it'd always seem weird to go from mates to "so... what are you wearing tonight then? ;) " For me, but that?s just my opinion if you think it could work then go for it! ;)
--Posted by angel-bridie
well
well if yall like best friends don't do that because i did that before and then we broke up now we can't stand each other but if yall like made a deal and said that we should be friends first i mean that fine
--Posted by atlgirl22
bad idea
oh no bad idea i dated my best friend of two years and now that we are broken up we dont speak. if you want to keep a good friendship dont date them but i learned that the hard way...
--Posted by dmv09
dis soz
when u are friends first a part of u will always see them as a friend
--Posted by xxjessrl
boo
No way. The guy I like and who likes me back refuses to be with me because he "can't stand to hurt someone he cares this much about". Maybe you can be casual friends, but never close friends. I officially screwed myself over for this one.
--Posted by shady_sunshine_69
not for me
Like a lot of these the other disses, I have dated a best friend and it ended badly... I think it is best to be kind of aquaintances/casual friends first, but not really close. All the best relationship I've seen have like that.
--Posted by beckiejean16
oh yeah ryt
actually.. it does not matter from where the intimate relationship started.. it depends upon the couple.. on how they would make their relationship sweeter and more stable.. maybe friendship would help the couple to realize their similarities and differences all through out... but still,i do believe that ... trust, love and respect is the best foundation of a sweeter relationship
--Posted by joeylyn
OMG....i am indifferent...
friendship would help the couple realize their similarities and differences, but still, trust, respect and love is the best foundation of a sweeter relationship.. in most cases, friendship ruins a couple because of some sort of disadvantages.. my boyfriend and i were not friends before but we love, respect and trust each other, that's why we are stronger and tougher now...i am not really sure in what to say about the issue... but i realize that it does not matter wether you are friends or not, wha matters most is the feeling that you have for each other.. =)
--Posted by joeylyn
my relationship is fine
i met this new kid at my school and he asked me for my number and we hung out that same day and we got together that same night and now we've been together for a month on the fourth of april. i fell in love with him the quickest then ive fallin for anyone.i fell for one other person that i dated for 10 months and he turned out to be a jackass and it took longer then less than a month to fall for him it took 4 months. and now i found who i believe is the one
--Posted by ilovejon3408
Not for me
I'm going to have to dis. I find it hard to suddenly go from friends to being in a relationship. The behavior is different. Unless you had a friendship where you acted like you were going out. But that's not always the case. I believe you should be friends with the person you are with, but when you're friends with them BEFORE, and acted like just friends then, it doesn't work too well. For me at least. And generally the other person expects the transition to be instantaneous. And when I can't do that, they think I'm not ready for a relationship. -_- No, see, it's not that I'm not ready for a relationship, it's that I can't go from being your friend to suddenly being all sweet and cuddly with you right away, I'M SORRY. It rarely works for me, so I have to say no. But it might work for others. To each her own, I suppose.
--Posted by fayefaye2
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2 months ago, I would have dug this if I hadn't met my current boyfriend. I used to want to know someone before dating them, but I finally realised that dating is about getting to know someone anyways. You have no outside pressures telling you the way you should be acting, plus you don't have to get over that awkward bump where you switch from friend to 'more than friend.'
--Posted by flashriot
Awkard!
In my opinion i wouldn't lyke dat, cuz 2 me dat would seem so awkward. I mean yea, you would know the person better and be close to dat person but...........it still wouldn't work out for me, or be one of my favs!
--Posted by niquedom
Ew..
Uh, that's like saying, "Sure, I'll date my brother!" ... and that's a little sick and twisted.. I'd never do that in my life.
--Posted by bunnyluver2
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