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marriage is no guarantee
I honestly don't see why pre-marital sex is still an issue. The current divorce rate shows that marriage is absolutely no guarantee that you'll stay together forever. And before you make a commitment as big as marriage, don't you want to know everything about your partner, including what sex is like with him? Sex is not everything, of course, but it is a big part of a relationship, so if something's not right there, it's better to find out before you exchange wedding rings.
--Posted by miss_mice
if your feel you are comfortable with it
then its ok, as teenagers we have urges!! lol. i think in "teen years" we're ment to be learning and preparing ourselves for adultdood. its a personal choice really
--Posted by teenagemoron
It's ok...
I think it's ok, if you are ready and feel comfortable then it's fine.
--Posted by ashalind
It's alright
The actual purpose for sex was having children, right? Well, then it would be more reasonable to find out if the guy is "fertile" before marrying him.
Then again, I think people should wait until they have a really steady relationship.
--Posted by lesotho
i think it's fine
You know, as long as you're emotionally mature enough for it. the only thing is, not everyone in the world is going to be able to psychoanalyze themselves. As long as the girl knows that sex doesn't guarantee a relationship and they KNOW what they're getting into, they take responsibility. I think it's fine.
--Posted by jynxmaltese
i dont see anything wrong with it
Honestly, i dont see anything wrong with it as long as you're in love then there isnt...i mean if u sleep around then thats a different story.
--Posted by amanda_and_brandon
Why not?
I think it's fine as long as ur having safe sex. use a condom everytime. u dont wana become pregnant or have a bunch of STDs. I think it's hard to wait until marriage because you could get married with 30. so ur going to wait 30 years until u can experience it? I dont think so. u cant really keep it until mariage because shit happens u know.. u get drunk or if u just find a guy who u feel comfortabler with, whose cute and nice. I think saving it for someone who u love and are having a relationship is really special.
--Posted by beauty6947
For Some People
If a girl is emotionally prepared for all that comes with having sex (like seeing a gyno, asking a guy to use a condom, the possibility that her relationship might not last, etc.) then I think she could consider it. It's a huge decision and responsibility; you have to take care fo yourself. But I believe sex in high school, for most people, is too young. You may regret your decision big time. Sex, in my opinion, should only take place between two serously commited people who know what they're getting in to.
--Posted by abbyiscool
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i'm very surprised to see the comments i'm seeing on the dis it side. premarital sex is not gross, it's all based upon a decision that the 2 people make. and because a girl gets pregnant doesn't mean she's gross and it doesn't mean that she can't get her legs together. guess what sheena07, you can get pregnant you're very first time having sex. now, say that happened to you, you get pregnant the first time you ever have sex. and you hear someone say "well she just can't keep her legs closed" and the fact is you're not a slut or anything, it was your FIRST TIME. not all teenage relationships end 2 weeks after sex either, if you're gonna go based on stats then you're coming about this issue in the wrong way. there really is a way to put your opinion without talking down to people.
--Posted by causelovehurts
I think that it's fine
I believe that it;s fine to have sex before marriage because i mean guys will like have sex before marriage so i dont know why they expect a girl wait till like marrige. I think that it's like pointless because like what happens if you get like married and you are like a virgin and then you like get a divorce then you just basically waisted your time to wait till marrige i mean the main reason girl want to wait till marrige is because they want to have sex with only one guy but if you get a divorce then you wont only have a it with one life partner and what happens if yu want to remarry then you wont be a virgin anymore. I feel that you ca also tell how attached you are to a person through sex because you have to know that the person to the fullest to see if you marrige is going to work out.... so i am totall okay with pre-material sex
--Posted by iluvstephen89
I think it's fine
I think that pre-marital sex is fine, it helps you practice with your boyfriend so that when you get married, (if you do)then it won't be so bad after all. I mean it's good to know what it feels like and then do it with your hubby.
--Posted by lovetosmooch
If your ready...
I feel that if you are emotionaly ready for it its fine. As long as you are with someone you love, why not. If your with someone you feel comfortable with and want to do it its their descion. But I think it's alright.
--Posted by apple21
Middlistic
I think it depends on who you are and what you believe. Personally I believe there's nothing wrong with waiting for one guy and only ever sleeping with one guy. But I have sex with my boyfriend right now because we are planning on getting married so I'm getting the same thing out of it - sex with one guy. I see how it might be a bad thing though because if we broke up and I married someone else, I would have something to compare my husband to. So I'm middlistic on the whole issue. I think it's definitely good to wait until a girl is older - 17 and up - and to make sure you love the guy before you do anything serious like have sex.
--Posted by jingle_horse
Your Choice...Not Theirs
If you want to have sex before you are married, then great. You shouldn't not do something you want to do just becasue of religion or fear. I mean you fear or religion didn't stop you getting your ears pierced did it? Then these reasons shouldn't stop you from having sex. If the you really like the guy and he ISN'T pressuring you, then go for it. Just make sure you wear a condom. I'm not saying that you should go sleep around with random guys. You can have sex, but just respect your body and make sure you really like the guy before doing anything you'll regret.
--Posted by babyhasbling
I'm pro-sex and anti-marriage, so you add um toghether :D <3
--Posted by on_the_bratmobile
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pressure
even though there's alot of pressure to have sex
by your peers, it doesn't make it right. you
should save that special gift for your one and
only true love.
--Posted by jadenalaska
only if ur ready
at this age in life, more and more teenagers are being pressured into pre-marital sex. i plan on waiting until im at least 18 or even hopefully when im married. But it all comes down to if ur ready or not.
--Posted by rose_girl8904
It's sick!
I think that you should save it till marriage or at least until you are like older not living at home and can afford to have a child. I think at this age it's sick seeing children have sex and being pregnant your throwing your life away and it's sick seeing your body become pure trash. I plan to save it till marriage or at least until i grow up also because i don't want to deal with this stuff and plus who wants to do it with there parents on there backs about it NOT ME!
--Posted by iliciabrodie
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Did you know that most younger relationships end two weeks after sex? Not a good thing... plus all the STDS and what not...
--Posted by xxxsugarsweetxxx
Dis it
b/c the bible says so
--Posted by lady_ram_08
It ain't right....
Pre-Marital sex is not right at all. I'm not saying that I will wait until I get married but at this point I am proud that I am 17 and still a virgin. That's why all these girls are pregnant now cause they can't keep their legs closed. Its sad and not cute at all.
--Posted by sheena07
Having never had sex, all I've seen are frustration from people who have had sex. They are lonely. They believe that sex will make them feel closer to their boyfriend or they just want to fit in. Having sex makes no sense when you are so young. Why not wait and have perfect sex with your husband? And it will be perfect because you'll have nothing to compare it too!
And you can't miss it, because you've never had it. It's like never eating an oreo cookie. You don't know what you are missing, so you don't care.
--Posted by bgross
DIS
i don't really believe in "wait until you're married", but i do believe in waiting until you are able to drop out of school and get a fulltime, well-paying job. and that's not until you are 18. any younger and you cannot raise a baby properly.
--Posted by samsungmodel97
God says its wrong
if u do it, its fine with other ppl but its a sin in Gods eyes. i hope ppl wait until they're married but if not, just be careful
--Posted by tray92
definetly a diss!
i have heard so mutch casis that a girl would get pregnet & actually try to have a baby, someone to never leave them,to love them becuz the guys would just use them & throw them away.but they dont understand that there just not ready, most not even wide enoughf to even have a baby.why worry u already have enough worries besides that.
--Posted by aprial
definetly a dis!
i know so mutch casis that the girl just has sex to at have a baby & the baby to love them to care for them just the way they are.becuz they get treated like dirt.even though most are not even wide enough.i mean why worry about something stupid like that its not like u dont get enoughf worries.
--Posted by aprial
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There are many reasons why pre-marital sex shouldn't happen. From a Christian or religious viewpoint, God forbids it in the Bible and He has good reasons for that. Sex should be special enough to be saved for your wedding night. There are also consequences for having it before marriage, such as the obvious like unwanted pregnancy and STD's. Also usually the girl (or maybe even guy) will have such an emotional connection with their sexual partner that if (and there's a good chance that they will) they break-up then it's much harder and depressing than if they did nothing sexual. One excuse some people have for it being okay is to have more experience, or "practice," but I think that it's much better for 2 people who haven't had any experience to "practice" together when they're in the ultimate committed relationsip - marriage.
--Posted by cheercharity
its not worth it
you should be saving your body for only one person, thats what i believe. i think there's only one person in this world that is worthy enough of getting that far with me.
--Posted by tiffany
just wait
I know a lot of people have sex before they're married, but I don't know anyone who did and didn't regret it. Just wait. Sex isn't the most important part of a relationship.
--Posted by berta_jo88
Virginity is only given once
Virginity is only given once and we should charish it. Many girls i know regret their first time. Personally, I'm going to wait till i'm married and with the right person. I also want to be ready to face the consequeses such as pregnancy.
--Posted by lady_peaches25
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